How Social Media Can Affect your Custody Battle

Often used for making important announcements or seeking support from your friends and relatives, there are many appropriate occasions for posting to social networking sites. With that said, however, when going through a divorce or custody battle, you may want to reconsider what you’re posting online. Whether you have them “private” or not, a judge can order your profile to be submitted in your case and what you post can have a significant impact on the court’s decision.




Here’s some advice for posting to social media:


Be aware of what you’re posting and that it is public, even if your privacy settings are applied. Tip: The old adage, “Would you say that in front of your mother ?”  rings true here.   Have a filter.


Post about quality time spent with your kids. Did you read a bedtime story to your daughter as she fell asleep in your lap? Snap a picture of that sweet memory and share it with your friends. However, don’t manufacture or manipulate the time spent with your kids. Refrain from staging a certain image of your relationship online. Yes, it is important to portray your bond, but there is no need to force an image because you think it will benefit you in your case. Only post the real moments.


It’s okay to update your friends and family to let them know that you’re a trouper and will make it through this tough time, but there is no need to air unnecessary information or ill will.


Refrain from posting content that portrays a negative image such as photos of excessive partying, explicit images, or references to illegal activity.


Keep it positive! Though we all have down days, and there will probably be times of anger, try not to rant about this situation, making negative or crass comments about your ex or anyone else involved.   If you need to rant, pick up the phone and call your mom or a close friend.


If  support is an issue, note that posting photos of expensive gifts, new cars, and luxury items can be used against you.


When it comes down to it, if you don’t feel that you can keep your private matters offline, you may want to consider taking a break from your social media sites altogether during this time. Think clearly about the content you’re posting and the possible consequences it could have.


If you have any questions about social media and the impact it may have on your child custody case, our team at Schulz Stephenson Law in Beaufort, NC  is here to help.   Contact Schulz Stephenson Law today and let us help you through this difficult and emotional time or visit us online at to learn more about our family law legal services.


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